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Finding a suitable vibrator is always hard for first timers. Even I have to struggle some times when it comes to a new type of sex toy that I have never experienced before. Do not worry because I will give you the ultimate step by step guide to choose and use a vibrator properly.
According to Wikipedia, a vibrator is a type of sex toy that is used on parts of the body to produce pleasurable stimulation. Most 2010-era vibrators contain an electric-powered device which pulsates or throbs, which is used to stimulate erogenous zones such as the clitoris, rest of the vulva or vagina, penis, scrotum or anus. There are many different shapes and models of vibrators. Some vibrators designed for women stimulate both the clitoris and the vagina. Some vibrators designed for couples stimulate the genitals of both partners.
To me, vibrator is one of the easiest method to reach orgasm, yourself or with your loved ones. It does not matter who you want to involve in your game, as long as you know how to use your favourite vibrator, you will be able to achieve your desire and encourage your man to explore the love game more.
Remember girls, vibrators are not just tools to achieve pleasure. They are an art that we should discover on our way to ultimate pleasure!
My following articles do not just offer guides and tips about choosing and using vibrators. It is absolutely more than that. Here I invite you to a party where a variety of in-depth explorations are conducted. Not only do I introduce you the top quality vibrators but I also categorize them in orders and review from my own experience to help you make your decision more easily. I will guide you wittily to take a look of each vibrator while keeping the language very easy to understand. No pressure, I promise!
However, I know there are a lot of vibrator reviews out there; you might still be wondering if you should even go any further. Maybe you are already a sex toy master like me? Maybe you are a beginner and vibrator is something against your will and style. Or maybe, just maybe, you are looking for a solution to add flavour in your relationship. Whoever you are at the moment, bear with me for a few more words and I am sure you will be thrilled to meet your new BFF – a vibrator customized just for your need. Trust me, everybody needs sex toys. They just do not know it yet or fail to find the ideal ones.
Continue on with your mission to find the perfect vibrators. I will not fail you and you might be shocked with what you find.
Let’s start with some principles about vibrators. You will be surprised by how many types of vibrators there are in the market. Remember, vibrator is just a small part in sex toy category. Therefore, whether you are a fetish expert or a beginner, just go through this quick explanation. It will help you a lot the next time you go vibrator browsing or searching on internet.
Often sold as “back massagers”, these are powerful vibrators such as the Womanizer Pro 40 Clitoral Stimulator. The clitoral vibrator is a sex toy used to provide sexual pleasure and to enhance orgasm by stimulating the clitoris.
Although most of the vibrators available can be used as clitoral vibrators, they may have special designs and models that would not resemble a vibrator. They commonly come in small sizes and in a variety of colors, textures and shapes. There is also a dual type of vibrator which provides stimulation to both clitoris and G-spot. They are normally driven by batteries and some of them are specially designed for underwater use. The most common type of clitoral vibrator is small, egg-shaped and attached to a multi-speed battery pack by a long cord. Variations include vibrators shaped like narrow bullets, animals, ergonomic forms, miniature rockets and large human tongues. Regardless of the design, the main function of the clitoral vibrator is to vibrate at varying speeds and intensities. Some of the clitoral vibrators may be inserted into the vagina. These typically have a small arm near the base of the vibrator, providing clitoral and vaginal stimulation simultaneously.
Apparently, it is one of the most common sex toy for women. Approximately penis-shaped, can be made of plastic, silicone, rubber, vinyl, or latex. Vibrating dildos like Vanity By Jopen Vr12 are designed for both individual usage and with a partner. They may be used for vaginal and anal penetration, as well as for oral penetration. They come in different sizes, colors and textures, and they may be double-ended, so that both anal and vaginal stimulation is achieved at the same time.
An egg- or bullet-shaped vibrating item for vagina insertion with wired or wireless control. Lovense Lush Bullet can be an example for this kind of vibrator. I personally love those round shape sex toys because they are easy to grip and can be stored in my purse without being noticed.
A sex toy can be water resistance or waterproof. It is a huge advantage because the sex toy can be cleaned much easier if it is waterproof. Moreover, it can be used wet, such as in the shower. Although marketed as waterproof, most should not be submerged. The ones designed for underwater usage may be used in the swimming pool, bath or shower, or any other wet place. The waterproof vibrators are recommended to be used with a water compatible lubricant, such as silicone-based lubricant. Jimmyjane Form 2 Clitoral Vibrator is my choice whenever I want to have some kinky game in the bathroom
If you want to upgrade your game into a higher level, the fancy rabit vibrator with two-pronged for stimulation of both the vagina and the clitoris simultaneously is your choice. The rabbit vibrator actually consists of two vibrators of different sizes. A phallus-like shaped vibrator is intended to be inserted into the vagina to stimulate the vagina, while a smaller clitoral stimulator is placed facing forward onto the main vibrator. The rabbit vibrator was named after the shape of the clitoral stimulator, which resembles a pair of rabbit ears. They are normally made of rubber, jelly, silicone, or latex and they come in a wide variety of colors, sizes and designs. My favourite rabbit vibrator is Utimi 10 Speed Dual Stimulating Vibrator
Similar to the traditional vibrator but the G spot vibrator has a curve and often a soft jelly-like coating. The curve is designed to stimulate the g-spot or prostate, which is perfect for women who just want to experience the pleasure on the G spot. This type of vibrator is made of materials such as silicone or acrylic. It can be used with or without the vibrations. They are recommended to be used with a significant amount of lubricant, especially when used anally. We will get to this part soon and I can’t wait to introduce the Eva Couples Vibrator to represent this type.
Have I introduce a “smart” vibrator with pre-programmed or controlled remotely system? An example is Lovense Lush Bullet Remote Control Vibrator which utilizes a timer and is intended to wake the user by vibrating at first gently and then with increasing power. Other vibrators come with a handheld remote, available in both wired and cordless, that can be used to adjust speed and intensity. Nowadays we have a lot of vibrators which has this function, namely We-Vibe Rave G-spot.
Multispeed vibrators allow users to customize how fast the vibrator’s pulsing or massaging movements occur. Depending on the specific type of vibrator, the speed change is made by simply pushing a button a certain number of times, allowing users to change speeds several times throughout the usage.
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Since a lot of vibrators are long and slender, you can certainly use them for penetration. However, the most sensitive spots to vibration are on the surface of the body — especially the clitoris and penile corona — and the first couple of inches into the vagina or anus. Plenty of people use vibrators and never include penetration play in their repertoire at all. Many vibrators have a motor at the tip, are egg-shaped, or fit on the finger like a ring, which makes them easy to hold against the clitoris, the penis, or wherever else you like the feeling they provide. However, they may not work as well inside the body (or in some cases are not designed to be used inside at all). There are fewer internal nerve endings that respond to vibration. Other toys have a motor at the base, so they work better for penetration. Don’t insert a toy into the anus if it doesn’t have a base — it could slip all the way in and not come back out.
When shopping for a vibe, it’s often helpful if you know how sensitive you are, or your partner is. If you’ve used a vibrator before, what worked in the past? If you’re looking for your first one, do you know if you like strong or mild sensations? Or perhaps you like different things at different times. While vibes create a sensation that’s undeniably different from anything else, if you know that your partner prefers a soft touch or a firm one, that’ll help you narrow the choices.
Harder plastic and metal tends to transmit more vibrations, but some people find these materials too firm. Softer materials can create milder sensations, which may work better for people who find that less is more -though some softer vibrators are also pretty strong, using more battery power. In addition, very small vibes (or vibrators with narrow tips) will probably feel stronger and more intense than wider or larger ones, since all the buzz they generate stimulates fewer nerve endings – the larger ones tend to diffuse the stimulation more. Everyone’s different regarding the kind of sexual sensation they like, so you may want to experiment with more than one type of vibe.
Different vibrators models have different options, from soft pulsations to deep and fast vibrations. Most can be controlled either from controls on the base or with a hand control attached by a wire, although there are a few wireless models. Not all vibrators offer the same variety of sensations. As a general rule, the more options you have, the better, since you’ll have more choices to play with.
If you come to one of our stores, you can test the strength of the vibrator before you purchase it. You can also find out how loud it is. If you’re browsing our website, each model has its volume and intensity listed. As a general rule, vibes start to make more noise as they age and the bearings wear out, and harder materials such as plastic make more noise than softer ones like silicone or elastomer.
The Pocket Rocket is a single speed vibrator that is small and battery operated, making it discreet and easy to use. For additional speeds, think about stepping up to bullets which can be used alone or be inserted into certain dildos or butt plugs for a nice sensation. The Silver Bullet is the most basic of these vibrators, but if you’re ready for multiple sensations you might want to try the Red Hot Bullet. Bullets are also good for teasing, arousing, and pleasing the clit.
Smoothies like the Silky G can be used for external stimulation or for vaginal penetration, but they’re not safe for anal insertion since they don’t have a base to keep them from slipping all the way inside.
If you want more than just clitoral stimulation, there are plenty of vibrators that provide clitoral and
vaginal pleasure. The rabbit-style vibrators are some of the most popular, and with good reason.
These cute vibrators aren’t fuzzy but they deliver pleasure like no other. The tried-and-true Rabbit Pearl with its swiveling shaft and pearl base with fluttering rabbit ears to tickle your clit has been a favorite for a number of years. Since it first hit the market to many women’s delights, this rabbit has adapted to water with many waterproof options now available and recently was updated with new technology, resulting in the Rabbit Habit Original Deluxe Vibrator.
Of course, we have lots of other sex toys, like our wearable and ring vibes, G-spot vibrators, and our rechargeable vibrators. You might also want to look at the newer styles included in our
Shopping for sex toys can be a lot like online dating: awkward, overwhelming, and difficult to separate the high-quality ones from the duds. What’s the difference between battery-powered and plug-in? Does the voltage really matter? And for goodness sake, do you really need one that looks like a penis?
“Like any other luxury product, a sex toy should be considered and thought out, because when you invest in a sex toy, you’re making an investment in your personal pleasure,” says Kathryn Catney, who represents the Swedish sex toy brand LELO.
You like to be an educated shopper for everything else, why not vibrators? Before you buy, think about the things that you really want out of your new friend, decide whether or not you feel best going to a store or making the purchase online, and search for a vibe made from a healthy material (spoiler alert: it’s silicone) in a color and style you like at a price that feels good to you. With proper care, these toys can last a long time, so taking the opportunity to figure out your wants and needs will go a long way. After all, no one likes to have a drawer full of abandoned vibrators, right?
If you agree with me, just go on and explore more about 6 steps you need when choosing a sex toy
When you think of a vibrator, the first thing that comes to mind is probably a big penis made of plastic. While wand-like vibrators are a classic option (and many women do love them), they can be a little intimidating for a first-time viber.
So how do you know which shape to look for? First, think about how you typically self-pleasure: Are you focusing on the clit or the G-spot (or both)? Do you enjoy intense and localized sensations, or do you prefer sensations spread around the vulva? Do you self-pleasure the same way every time, or do you need something that can perform in a variety ways?
If you like the spread-out sensations on your vulva, Jimmyjane Form 2 is an excellent—and totally non-phallic—option. For something more clit-focused, try a bullet vibrator, like the super simple
What if you have no idea whether you want internal or external stimulation? In this case, go with the internal one. “Generally, we recommend choosing a toy that can be used internally, even if you don’t intend to use it internally,” says Catney. “That’s because internal massagers can be just as effectively used externally, so you’re killing two birds with one stone, and you have a more versatile sex toy.” Just make sure you find one with a girth that feels comfortable.
Once you’re ready to take the plunge, you have two options: visit an actual store or buy online. The perks about a store is that you can test the vibrations and see the toy up close.
There are many possibilities! Shopping for a vibrator is way more fun than most shopping experiences! You get to go to an interesting boutique, learn about different styles, and discover entirely new ways to find sexy pleasures. And there’s no shame in walking out of a store with a discreet shopping bag, filled with a pretty little package that’s just for you.
But if that seems too much for you, go ahead and hit “buy on Amazon” online. It’s great if you feel a bit shy or really like to take your time researching options, or, heck, are pressed for time. Besides, retailers ship everything in discreet boxes. Many of them also qualify for free Prime shipping on Amazon, so you can have it at your doorstep in as little as a day.
Just like you wouldn’t buy an expensive piece of clothing without first checking the label (Is it dry clean only? Will it wrinkle?), it’s essential to look at what a sex toy is made of before buying it.
Silicone is my favorite, and many well-known brands use only medical-grade silicone. Try the G-spot focused Gigi 2 or the couple-friendly We-vibe Sync. Silicone “transmits vibration well and it’s non-porous and easy to clean with soap and water, making it healthy and safe for the body. Hard plastic is also easy to clean. Avoid jelly rubber, it contains phtalates which are banned for use in children’s products but unregulated in bedroom toys.”
No matter how powerful the vibrator is, it would be a huge mistake to buy something you think looks scary, garish, or aesthetically unappealing. Catney says that the aesthetics of a vibrator are almost as important as what it does—after all, this is something you’re using to get turned on. So skip that hot pink vibe unless you absolutely love the way it looks. Pick the one that tickles that sexy part of your imagination. Desire and aesthetic are deeply personal and entwined, so pick the vibrator (or vibrators) that speak to you.
By the same token, if you’re nervous about having something that’s obviously a sex toy sitting on your nightstand, opt for something discrete. One option: Jimmyjane Form 2, which looks like a cute rabbit ornament, and can be used as a clitoral massager, G-spot vibrator, or penis ring—all in one. Another stealth toy is Eva Couple Pocket Rocket Vibrator, which is round, with 2 antennas and totally unlike any other vibrator. It’s so pretty that you could probably have the thing out on your coffee table and no one would know it was a sex toy.
If you live in a place where the walls are thin, then it’s worthwhile to find a vibe that won’t sound like you’re revving up a chainsaw every time you use it. Sometimes, the noise level will correlate with the intensity or power of the vibrator, but with high-end products, that won’t be as much of an issue.
One way to find a quiet-but-powerful tool is to hunt down materials that muffle sound. “Silicone is great for this, and it’s great for your body too.”
If you’re worried that a quiet vibe will compromise the intensity of the sensations, I recommend testing the vibrator on your hand—or on the tip of your nose if you’re buying in-store, which is more sensitive—to see how it feels.
You have been introduced quite a lot about sex toys. It is time for practice. To me, Rabbit vibrator is the best sex toy for a woman because of its high quality and extreme experience. Whether it’s your first time using a rabbit vibrator or you’re already a keen rabbit lover looking for the best way to use a rabbit vibrator, I am here to help.
Rabbit vibrators are renowned for introducing women to what is known as a ‘blended orgasm’. This is a term used to describe when a woman experiences two orgasms simultaneously: a clitoral and vaginal or G-spot orgasm at the same time.
With these hints and tips, you’ll soon be confident that you know exactly how to use a rabbit vibrator to its fullest – and most satisfying – potential. Using a rabbit vibrator is easy once you know how to do it and, as with so many other things, practice makes perfect. Start by getting to know the functions of your rabbit before you play. Usually the rabbit ears have one set of controls and the shaft options (whether it has standard rotating functions or is a thrusting rabbit) have a separate set. Try out all the options and get to know the buttons without looking at them so you can confidently change the settings while you’re using it.
When you’re ready, get in the mood to play in your favourite way. Some women like to add a little orgasm balm to their clitoris to help them become fully aroused. We always suggest that you use a water-based lube with a rabbit vibrator, putting some on the shaft and the ears to get the slickest sensations possible.
Begin playing by getting used to the rabbit. Gently rub the ears around the edges of your labia and down your thighs, before moving it around and onto your labia. Once you’re ready to go, select the first speed setting for the ears to get you started. Hold the rabbit so that you just use the ears on the clitoris, you’ll find the clitoral stimulation to begin with will help arouse you and make you prepared for penetration.
When you’re ready, you can start to insert the shaft slowly, taking time to get used to the sensations. Using it with lube will add to the thrills and make the experience more comfortable. Once inside, the rabbit ears should nuzzle your clitoris but feel free to adjust it to suit you – they’re very flexible so will take lots of bending, twisting and pushing. Then get ready to turn the shaft speeds on. If your rabbit has a beaded shaft, these will rotate stimulating your G-spot as well as providing you with that fantastic full feeling.
If it’s your first time with a rabbit vibrator, you’ll probably find you climax very quickly. Keep experimenting with your new beside bunny, teasing with the ears and shaft. Try alternating between just clitoral stimulation, just vaginal stimulation and then both together when you can’t take it any more! The longer you take to build up to orgasm, the more likely it is to be a powerful ‘blended orgasm’.
Rabbit vibrators aren’t just used by single women, many people reap the benefits of using them with their partner during foreplay and sex for an exciting and intensely satisfying addition to their sex lives.
Rabbits are so couple-friendly they’re brilliant as a joint purchase. If your lover has a sensitive ego and is a bit reluctant to allow your new toy to become part of your sex routine, why not ease any fears by allowing them to be the one who gets to wield its orgasmic powers on you?
Even better, tell your partner that if they want to see you seriously turned-on and expectant of a strong and powerful orgasm or two, they can go down on you while using the rabbit vibe to stimulate you internally.
The popularity of adult toys has increased over the past decade. Research suggests that the taboos surrounding vibrators and other devices intended to increase individual or mutual pleasure are dissolving as more individuals (and couples) reach for a far more intimate type of technology.
Enhancing physical pleasure undoubtedly enhances sexual enjoyment. But how does using sex toys impact the satisfaction that both partners derive from their overall relationship? Some novel research into the prevalence and demographics of sex toy use sheds light on this question — and the results indicate that pleasure in bed and pleasure in a relationship may differ slightly for partners depending on their gender.
A large nationally representative study led by researcher Michael Reece, Ph.D., examined the prevalence of vibrator use among heterosexual men in the United States. Intriguingly, heterosexual men who had used sex toys with their partners reported lower levels of sexual satisfaction than men who had never used a sex toy with their partners. The researchers couldn’t say for sure why satisfaction was lower in this cohort. But given that most heterosexual men who had used vibrators with a partner reported doing so to increase their partner’s pleasure (as opposed to their own) it’s possible that these men’s sexual satisfaction were unchanged by the introduction of a vibrator and may have already been lower to begin with.
That being said, it may also be the case that some heterosexual men who have used vibrators with their partners (either because their partner suggested they do so or because they organically thought it could improve their partner’s enjoyment of sex) felt that having to use a vibrator reflected poorly on their own sexual ability. If this were the case it would make sense that their sexual satisfaction remained low. (No one likes to feel like they’re not good in bed.)
The belief that “using a sex toy means your partner isn’t a good enough lover is one of the most common misconceptions people have about sex toys,” says certified sex therapist, licensed marriage and family therapist, and resident relationship and sex expert at AdamandEve.com, Dr. Kat Van Kirk, Ph.D. “One partner may also fear that another partner’s use of a sex toy will replace them or that they’ll become overly reliant on them for arousal and/or orgasm.”
All this isn’t to say that every man who uses a vibrator with a partner risks feeling inferior or unsatisfied. Other research (also by Reece) has found that men who regularly use vibrators (on themselves, on their partners, or both) score higher on measures of erectile function, orgasm function, sexual desire, and sexual satisfaction than men who have rarely or never reached for a vibrator. The same study also found that men who identify as gay or bisexual are more frequent users of vibrators and other sex toys — an observation corroborated by a 2012 study spearheaded by Joshua G. Rosenberger, Ph.D. — than men who identify as straight.
More frequent use of sex toys among individuals who do not identify as strictly straight has also been found among women, according to a 2011 study led by researcher Vanessa Shick, Ph.D. While 53% of heterosexual women report having ever used a sex toy, 86% of women who have sex with women say they’ve used a sex toy — and experienced a noticeable uptick in sexual satisfaction because of it. (It should also be noted that, as Shick et al., write in their study, “Vibrator-using lesbian and queer-identified women reported significantly less difficulty with pain than lesbian and queer-identified women without a history of vibrator use.”)
Generally speaking, couples who can explore novel ways of being intimate —including trying out one or more sex toys — tend to fare better in terms of maintaining passion and desire (in addition to relationship satisfaction) over the long haul. A 2016 study conducted by Chapman University’s David Frederick, Ph.D., found that women and men who reported feeling satisfied by their relationship and the sex that they had with their partners were more likely to report having used sex toys together — in addition to other activities, such as taking a shower together, trying new positions in bed, and scheduling a date night to have sex.
Whether sex toys end up enhancing a relationship or leading to conflict likely depends on the nature of openness and communication between partners. As a 2013 report by the Guttmacher Institute demonstrates, the more positively individuals in relationships rate their interactions with their partners, the higher they tend to rate their desire for one another as well as the satisfaction they derive from their relationship — inside and outside of the bedroom. In the context of sex toys, positive communication means (ideally) that partners who feel threatened can open up about their concerns, feel heard and validated, and receive reassurance from their partners that a desire to use a sex toy is in no way a comment on their virility, desirability, or sexual ability. (Likewise, the partner who desires to use a sex toy should — again, ideally — be able to communicate that desire without being judged, shamed, or otherwise pulled away from. Not surprisingly, Reece and his colleague Debra Herbenick, Ph.D., surmise in a 2010 paper on the use of vibrators within relationships, “it may be that being able to communicate openly and feel that one’s sexual interests and pleasures are accepted by one’s partner enhances satisfaction.”)
Van Kirk believes that incorporating toys can boost the relationship and sexual satisfaction of anyone open to and respectful of their own and their partners’ inclinations and boundaries. “If there is a sense of openness and non-judgment that can be cultivated most people can learn to incorporate new aspects into their repertoire versus being resistant. Talking about the resistance can be helpful in dispelling myths your partner has had about sex toy use. And some education always helps. For instance, the fact that most women do not orgasm through penile/vaginal alone should be enough to invest in a sex toy.”
At 17, I bought my first vibrator — a plastic, neon pink model I plucked from the shelves of my sketchy hometown porn shop as my friend and I struggled to contain our laughter — and I’ve barely masturbated without one since. As capable as I might be, I can’t deliver 2,700 to 6,300 vibrations a minute to my 8,000 clitoral nerve endings without the help of a Magic Wand, and as long as mine is charged, it plays a starring role in my solo sex life. (I’ve
My dedication to vibration did leave me with questions though: What is the effect of prolonged vibrator use, both over a single session and over years? Could it make it harder for me to orgasm in other ways, or lead me to need more stimulation to feel the same amount of sensation. For answers, I turned to Zoë Ligon, sex educator and founder of sex-positive toy store Spectrum Boutique, and Vanessa Marin, a sex therapist who teaches the online course Finishing School to guide users to their first orgasms.
“Applying vibration to the clit, or anywhere else on the body, does not cause desensitization,” Ligon says firmly. While we’re not sure exactly why vibration can feel so damn good, Ligon says that that blood flow has something to do with it: “When the clit is aroused, it swells with blood much like a penis — they’re analogous parts — and the increased surface area exposes more nerve endings.”
Vibrators don’t alter nerve function. It’s just that when we get used to the intense sensation they provide, other types of stimulation can feel less intense — and after you’ve had some vibrator experience, you might like more intensity than you did when you were a beginner because you have more reference points. “It’s all about the relative perception of stimulation,” Ligon explains. She compares vibrators to massage chairs: If you sit in a powerful massage chair for an hour and then immediately get a shoulder rub, the shoulder rub won’t feel as intense as it would have if you hadn’t sat in that massage chair first. If you wait awhile, though, a hand massage will feel as good as it ever has. (It’s worth noting that the placebo effect is a powerful thing: If you think vibrator use decreases sensitivity, you may in fact feel less sensitive.)
You don’t need to worry that the sex you have with body parts alone (Hands! Clits! Tongues!) will lose appeal if you incorporate a vibrator in your sex life. “I think this is an idea that has been perpetuated in part by folks who fear that vibrators are ‘replacements’ for people, which they are absolutely not,” Ligon says. “Can a vibrator cuddle you after it makes you come? Nope! Vibration is truly a blessing in that it makes achieving orgasm much easier with less physical effort than manual stimulation, and I’m all for anything that brings more orgasms into the world.”
“There’s way too much fear-mongering out there when it comes to vibrators,” Marin begins. “Here’s the bottom line: You’re not going to get addicted to or dependent on your vibrator.” That said, there are times you may want to leave it in the drawer. “If you’re currently in or are planning on being in a relationship in the future, think about the role you want your vibrator to play in your sex life,” Marin suggests. “If you’re down with having your partner use a vibrator on you, or using a vibrator with your partner, by all means, buzz away! If you want to be able to orgasm from your partner’s hands, their tongue, or from intercourse, if you have it, then it’s worth taking it easy with the vibrator and learning how to orgasm with your hands.” While frequent vibrator use doesn’t make it harder to orgasm in other ways, per se, it can mean that you don’t spend as much time figuring out what else makes you tick (and communicating it to a partner) as you otherwise would. “It’s hard to give a partner feedback if all you know how to do is hit the power button,” Marin points out.
An orgasm is an orgasm, whether or not a toy is involved — and what’s more, sex doesn’t have include one to be great. “Many adults are pre-orgasmic or struggle to become regularly orgasmic, but these people can still experience extreme sexual pleasure without coming,” Ligon points out. “And if you are only able to come from the most intense vibration known to humankind, then that is also amazing and awesome!” You get to choose the role that toys to play in your sex life, whether that role is starring or nonexistent or somewhere in between — and you get to do it without fear of nerve damage. Which is a relief, because my Magic Wand is just about fully charged.
Old-school thinking was that guys would run for the nearest exit if you pulled out a vibrator during sex — the theory being that it freaked them out to have another “package” in the room. Thankfully, that’s false. Since so many dudes are open to the awesome sensations a vibe can bring, we got experts to spill their best tips on using one with him.
Buzz it on him before you strip him down.Lay him on the bed, turn it on, and rub it over him. Start at his knees, run up his upper thighs, and circle it around the bulge in his pants. This way, he’ll get comfortable with the feeling.
Start on a slow setting,and use the tip to circle your nipples and then his. As you circle, turn up the speed. Alternate between the vibrator and sucking his nipple (he should do the same to you). The back-and-forth and the heat from your lips feel amazing.
Turn it up full throttle (the shaft of a guy’s penis isn’t so sensitive, so he can handle it). Then move it up one side of his package and down the other. It’ll stimulate his entire penis and make him extrahard.
During oral, hold the side of your vibe against your cheek as you take him in and out. Your wet, quivering mouth will feel unexpected and arousing.
Turn it down low, and wrap it in your panties to lessen the sensation. Then hold the vibrator against his boys while you fondle his shaft. A guy’s testicles can’t take very much stimulation, so the muffled shaking is right.
While he uses his tongue to pleasure you, have him put the vibrator inside you angled slightly toward your belly button — that way, it will hit your G-spot (the spongy, dimesize area about 2 inches inside you that is pleasurepacked with nerves). The combo of stimulation will make for an incredibly intense orgasm.
Give him total control of the toy, and let him use it on you during penetration. Here’s a position that opens you up perfectly for him: Have him lie on his back, then get on top and lie so your back is against his chest. The entire front of your body is revealed, and he can reach around and trail the vibrator from your breasts to your clitoris.
His perineum — the small patch of skin between his balls and anus — is supersensitive. Pick up a small, egg-shaped model (putting anything bigger near his booty may freak him out), and whip it out while you’re on top. As you ride him, reach behind and hold it against that area.
If he is hesitant about incorporating a toy into sex, start him off slowly with a vibrating ring (Trojan and Durex make them, and they’re available at the drugstore). It’s a silicone ring you can slip around his penis that has a tiny vibrator attached. The pulsing will feel awesome at the base of his penis, and if he’s on top, it’ll hit your clitoris as he thrusts.
Hey! It's Claire Manners. I'm a sex toy reviewer expertised in BDSM and kinky stuffs for women. I believe that everybody deserves to have the most luxurious and intensified sex experience through a toy that matches your demand.